I am seriously considering a second marriage. My first wife is a kind person who has never fallen short in our marriage. I want to be fair not only financially, but also with affection and time. How have people who have been through this handled it?
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You can measure fairness in how you divide your time, but making feelings equal is impossible, and God says this in the Qur'an. Be honest with yourself before you begin.
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Honesty from day one is the most important thing. My first wife knew before I remarried. The conversation was difficult, but it was better than having her hear it from someone else.
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My sister's husband took a second wife, and she fell apart emotionally even though she had 'agreed.' Remember that a wife's agreement can sometimes come from despair rather than genuine acceptance.
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