Before marriage, he was attentive, listened to me and had patience. Now his replies are short, and he spends his time on his phone. I feel as though I made a mistake, but I do not know how to speak to him without the situation turning into an argument.
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Some change is normal during the first and second years. Men can become more relaxed after marriage and put less effort into showing attention. The important thing is to raise the issue calmly and without blame.
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Speak to him at a calm time—not after an argument or when either of you is exhausted. Tell him exactly what you need. Make it a request rather than criticism; men often respond better to a clear request than to a complaint.
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If talking does not help, try a session with a marriage counsellor. There is no shame in that; it is an investment in your home.
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